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Birth order

Can being big sister, baby brother, or piggy-in-the middle make a big difference to your personality? We serve up the theory for you to decide for yourself.


The theory in a sentence

That all children develop certain behavioural characteristics depending on whether they're born first, second, third etc.

The only child:

  • Keen on facts, ideas, and details;
  • A 'mover and shaker' in their work;
  • Unforgiving and demanding;
  • Doesn't handle criticism well;
  • Lonely and spoiled.

The oldest child:

  • Likely to be successful and responsible;
  • A hard working perfectionist;
  • Pushed by the parents, who have high expectations;
  • Pushes others too hard;
  • A bossy-boots.

The middle child:

  • Good at making friends and getting on with people;
  • A good mediator and negotiator;
  • Quietly rebellious but avoids confrontation;
  • Worries about being overlooked;
  • A people-pleaser who gets walked over.

The youngest child:

  • Likes entertaining and showing off;
  • Gets bored easily;
  • Charming one minute, hard to deal with the next;
  • Worries about not being taken seriously;
  • Immature and spoiled.

The catch

Even if there is some evidence to back up the theory, all manner of different influences can shape a growing personality. From your environment to your genetic make-up, the way you were raised and the friends you make. Others dispute the theory based on the simple fact that every individual is unique, regardless of their birth order.

 



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