Ruined by rape
Question
I'm struggling to cope having escaped an abusive relationship. I was raped and beaten on countless occasions, and even though he's out of my life I'm depressed and finding it hard to go on. Can you help me?
Answer
It's entirely understandable that you're still feeling so deeply affected by the experience, despite the fact that your ex is no longer in your life. Very often, the emotional and psychological impact of abuse can be delayed until later on in life, which is known as post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). This may come in the form of depression or anxiety, lack of confidence or self-esteem, problems developing and sustaining relationships or issues surrounding sex. It can be hard to know how to cope, particularly when feelings arise from the past as opposed to the present.
Feeling suicidal is a very isolating experience, even if close friends and family are around. Opening up to them can help you to feel less despairing, but if you'd prefer to speak to someone in confidence then contact SANELINE. This is a helpline, for anyone affected by mental health issues, such as depression and suicidal feelings, and is available on 0845 767 8000. You can talk through your feelings and the options available to you to overcome your situation constructively. You may like to consider calling Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90, who are available 24 hours a day, every day. If you would prefer not to speak to someone on the phone, Befrienders Worldwide offers further support and information via email.
If you have been feeling like this for some time, and have not sought any professional support, it might be worth considering speaking to your doctor (GP). They may be able to help you to focus on what is making you feel so low and help you seek the right form of treatment or support.
Alternatively, if you feel suicidal again and would like to see a professional urgently, your local hospital accident and emergency department might be worth visiting. There, you will be able to see a duty psychologist who can assess your needs and assist you in finding the necessary support.
Finally, the violence and rape you experienced must have been very traumatic. If you would like to speak to someone about this, you can call RASAC (Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre) on 08451 221 331. Again, they offer telephone support, referrals and counseling to anyone who has been through an ordeal such as yours, no matter how long ago.
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