Finding help
Question
I've been considering having some kind of therapy or counselling for a while but I'm not sure how to go about getting it or what kind of help I need. I have self-esteem issues that are causing major problems in my relationships and I still need my security blanket, the one I've had since I was a baby. I really want to get rid of the blanket and deal with the self-esteem problem; can you help me find someone to talk to?
Answer
Counselling can prove hugely beneficial to some people and it can take a lot of courage to even consider seeking it. It's encouraging to hear you're thinking about this step forward. It's also positive to hear you have been able to recognise your low self-esteem and the impact this has had on your relationships.
It's understandable you've been considering talking to a counsellor. Sometimes opening up to friends or family about your feelings can help but, surprisingly, it can seem easier to talk to a stranger about things. They can help you explore thoughts and feelings in an honest, confidential and non-judgmental environment.
If you would like to speak to a counsellor or therapist, local counselling services can be found through Youth Access and the British Association For Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). In addition, your local doctor (GP) will be able to help you explore the options that other talking treatments might offer you.
As a way of trying to boost your self esteem, it might be worth investing some more time in yourself, thinking about the kind of interests you have, what you enjoy doing, or activities you would like to get involved with. From there, you could find out about local clubs or organisations you could join, such as local sports teams, book clubs, music clubs or college societies. Your local council website or library should have further details.
Another option to consider is getting involved with a local organisation, or charity, by volunteering. This is an excellent way of developing both your social and work skills, meeting new people and gaining experience that could benefit your studies or career ambitions. If there is a particular cause you feel passionately about, volunteering for a relevant organisation can prove very satisfying.
It is understandable if you feel nervous about trying any of the suggestions above, but they might be worth considering as a way of boosting your confidence and, more importantly, to do something that makes you feel good about yourself.
In the meantime, if you feel you need some support and don't feel able to talk to people close to you, you can call Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90. Careline also offers emotional support on 020 8514 1177. Alternatively, you might like to consider talking in confidence and without judgement to SANELINE on 0845 767 8000. They provide emotional support, practical information and a listening service to anyone experiencing a mental health issue. It may well provide you with an opportunity to discuss your feelings and circumstances more objectively, so you can explore any triggers or changes in lifestyle that might improve your mental wellbeing.
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